Rellu
30
Tallinn, Harju County, Estonia
About me

Hello there!

I'm a non-binary person (they/them) from Estonia ๐Ÿ‡ช๐Ÿ‡ช

I believe I'm Demi/recipromantic, but I'm still not 100% sure (attracted to masculine people regardless of their gender)

An introvert (I do open up and can be talkative once I feel comfortable and the vibe is there)

A homebody (I do like to travel occasionally and go out into nature or have a walk in the Old Town)

Possibly Neurodivergent (AuDHD), working on getting a professional diagnosis in the near future. Mental health is very important to me. I've been to therapy in the past and I'm actively working on bettering myself. My motto is to be better and to do better.

I have pets! Two cats named Momo and Lucifer and a cockatiel named Caesar. I love animals in general though, and I'm open to having all kinds of pets in the future ๐Ÿ˜Š

I live with my elderly grandmother and mentally disabled mother, and I take care of them both. I'm also my mother's legal guardian.

I'm also very independent, and sometimes even stubborn because of that. I'm actively trying to learn to be more open and accepting of help from others.

I enjoy working out. I work out with weights around 2 times a week. My job is rather physical, and I'm trying to keep things in balance and give my body enough rest as well. I love feeling physically strong and becoming stronger and stronger.

I prefer series over movies. I have watched a lot of things. I enjoy horror, comedy, drama, crime, and action series, for example.

I also hate coffee, the taste, and the smell. I hardly ever hate anything, so it goes to show how strongly I feel about it ๐Ÿ˜†

I also have short hair and I like to shave it all off at least once a year. Rest of the time, I keep it short but not longer than shoulder length.

I have a collection of skulls ( all fake, obviously) and a small collection of plushies.

I love the cold and despise the heat, anything over 20 degrees Celsius makes me miserable...

My interests

I love horror movies and scary/creepy stuff in general (paranormal horror is my favourite, though)

I'm very interested in psychology and true crime (I'm constantly trying to understand myself and others around me better)

I love creative things and being creative. I've had many creative interests in the past. Such as nail art (I had a YouTube channel), making jewellery, playing instruments, drawing, singing, and songwriting, etc. I have lost interest in these things now, though. Singing is something I still enjoy, although I'm not good at it...

I love music, it's such an important part of my life. I listen to all kinds of genres of music, except country. I was never able to get into that one. However, rock and metal have a soft spot in my heart. I also listen to quite a bit of pop and rap music. I have a massive playlist of songs in Spanish (different genres). Music recommendations are always welcomed!

I love tattoos, on myself and other people. I currently have 4 tattoos and I want to get many more in the future!

My hobbies

Photography - I've always loved taking photos! I have my camera with me whenever I'm traveling somewhere, and the rest of the time I take photos with my phone.

Baking - I love to bake! I consider it to be one of the love languages I like to express my love in towards others. I like to bake from cookies to cakes, and both sweet and savoury stuff.

Gaming - I like to do some casual gaming, either on my own or with friends (wouldn't call myself a gamer, though). My most played games are The Sims, Don't Starve Together, Stardew Valley, Cities: Skylines, Sid Meier's Civilization VI, and Northgard (there are other games I enjoy as well)

Hiking - I like being in nature, but I don't have that much energy for that these days.

Learning languages - I find it to be a lot of fun to learn another language (at least most of the time). I've learned a bit of Japanese, Korean, Portuguese, and currently, I'm trying to learn Spanish and to get to a decent level.

I enjoy travelling as well, although, I haven't done it in a few years now. I've travelled around Europe (Latvia, Finland, Sweden, Denmark, England, and Spain). I'd love to go back to Spain again and visit other cities (I've been to Madrid). I'd love to be able to visit Scotland, Ireland, Canada, South Korea, and Japan one day.

What I'm looking for in a partner

I'm looking for someone kind, caring, understanding, patient, romantic, etc. I'm mostly attracted to masculine presenting people regardless of gender. However, I also like people who look masculine but are in tune with their feminine side (whatever that may mean, I'm not sure either ๐Ÿ˜†). My age preference for a partner is between the ages of 25 and 38. Words of affirmation is my first love language when it comes to receiving love, and thus, verbal affection is very important to me. Physical affection comes second, but it's also very important. Thus, I'm looking for someone who finds them just as important. Aesthetic attraction is also important to me. If I don't find a person aesthetically attractive, I won't develop a sensual attraction towards them, and without sensual attraction, I won't develop romantic attraction. I have a lot of responsibilities in my life, and I need a partner who is understandstanding of that, and can handle it. Who is also supportive and someone I can count on, and who is also financially stable. I am open to a long-distance relationship which would end up with us living together eventually. However, because of my circumstances, moving for me is not possible. Therefore, the person I'm dating would need to be open to moving to Estonia eventually. I'm childfree and it's important to me that my partner is as well.

My deal breakers for a partner

Smoking (any kind) Excessive drinking Drugs Religion (I'm an atheist, and really can't see myself with someone who is religious) Dislike for physical affection and kissing (physical affection is a love language of mine, and I very much enjoy kissing/making out, and I need that to feel happy in a relationship) Unable to communicate in a clear, and healthy way (communication is the key as they say, and it's important to me that my partner can communicate in a way that is empathetic but straightforward) Having and/or wanting children (I don't desire to be a parent or a step-parent Dislike for cats (my furbabies are my world, and I can't see my life without at least one cat)

Possible deal breakers for a partner

I'm plus size - I work out and keep myself active. My goal is to build muscle and become stronger, not necessarily lose weight. However, I do plan to drop a few clothing sizes. I just want to feel good in my body and like what I look like.

Being neurodivergent - Existing is hard for me, and the consequences of it can be hard for others to deal with as well. I change quite a bit when I'm going through burnout. The change is something people tend to struggle with. I try my best to communicate what is happening to me, and how I'm feeling.

As mentioned before at the top, I live with my family and because of the circumstances, I am unable to move to another country, plus, I actually do like living in Estonia, even though it can be quite expensive these days.

Being an introvert and a big homebody - I don't enjoy going out to eat or going to parties. I try to avoid very crowded places most of the time. Not really the type to be eager to try new experiences either, I like familiarity.

I can enjoy sexual touch and I'm okay with penetrative sex, but I am repulsed by certain other sexual acts.

I do eat meat. Not very often and mostly chicken for protein, but I'm aware that can be a deal breaker for some.

Tattoos - As mentioned before, I have quite a few of them and I want more in the future. I understand that it can be a deal breaker for some as well.

Persona
Gender
Non-binary
Ethnicity
Caucasian / White
Labels
Asexual | Queer
Diet
Omnivore
Build
Plus size
Height
5 ft 7 in - 171 cm
Languages
Spanish | English | Estonian
My Preferences
I'm here for
Friends and Relationship
Aged
Min. 25 - Max. 38
Interested in
Masculine
I want a relationship with someone that is...
Sex
Indifferent
Romantically
Favourable
to
Desired
Relationship
Desire for Sex
Indifferent
Desire for Romance
Desired
Long Distance
Anywhere
Queer Platonic Relationship
Does not want a QPR
Polyamory
Does not want polyamory
Kids
Does not want kids
Marriage
Open to marriage
Lifestyle
Education
High School
Occupation
Sorter
Drinking
Rarely drinks
Smoking
Never smokes
Cannabis
Never uses cannabis
Drug use
Never uses drugs
Pets
Has birds | Has cats
Religion
Atheism
Political Beliefs
Politically Left-Leaning